Nurungukal.......contd.....
I proceeded on
leave in the middle of October 1970. 3rd September was my marriage
day. When I reached home my mother and brothers were busy with the most
difficult task in a marriage viz. to ensure that the invitations reached every
body and none is left behind. But it is
my experience that one or two very intimate friends or relatives might have
been left. It would be known only after the marriage and we had to cut a sorry
face. Things were being moved smoothly, but I felt that the absence of father
was felt in the planning process. Although he never would involve directly in
the execution his influence in the procedure was very important as he would
foresee each and every aspect of the event. One of my elder brothers who was
actually the force behind my marriage had expressed his inability to attend
due to some unavoidable reason. All others were there to make the event lively.
I found that
my absence from the home ,since the attaining of the job had created a gap in
my contacts with the local friendships. Many of my childhood comrades had
left the village in search of better pastures like me. I could locate none of
my school mates to become the best man and I had to depend some one who was a
regular visitor to our house to assist my mother.
Due to her
age mother was not in her best, while comparing her performance during my
sister’s marriage. Still she was the centre of attraction, by her in born
ability of hospitality. From dawn to dusk she was like a busy bee, moving
around, exchanging pleasantries, while unbundled her past.
Some of the relatives of the bride paid
visits once or twice to fine tune the procedures. They insisted to adopt some
of their customs, which I knew, later were of a tradition borrowed from Palghat
area, from where her father hailed. Even now I feel that the Nair families of
Wayanad can not claim a tradition of
their own as they are migrants.
During that
period Kerala politics was in a turmoil. The ruling and opposition parties were
involved in mud slinging each other. As a mole to the mountain a minister was
alleged of a corruption charge in which unfortunately my bride’s family was
also alleged to have involved. But after a hectic battle in the court of law
the cloud was cleard. Anyway after marriage I heard very interesting versions of the episode which I feel now, can
be moulded into a TV serial !!. But I do not venture to do it as it can rupture
a hard earned harmony and stimulate a family feud.
The upheaval
of a movement against the atrocities inflicted by some of the feudal barons
was another issue to be tackled. Their activities were creating a horror in the
social life of the state and it made ripples in the political circles. There
was a resistance in the minds of the public against such blood sheds as it was
clear violation of the accepted principles of democracy and law of the land to
settle a social issue. Soon the movement lost momentum and fizzled out. But it
was an eye opener and found results later, although there are vibrant issues
still to be resolved.......contd....
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