Tuesday, 19 July 2016

Nurungukal…2…contd…
    It was a mixed gathering yesterday to initiate an awareness program on the relevancy of observing a Kerala’s tradition in food habits in tune with changing seasons. There were a few of my age group, some officials, a batch of Adivasi girls and their elders and to set an apt mood the presence of one or two with long grey hair and long khadar shirts and shoulder bags and many other familiar faces whom you can see in such functions occupying the front seats. Among them I sat with a lost face occasionally wiping the unseasonal sweat with my long towel in the dais not knowing how to start my talk on the importance of ten leaves which are to be included in our diet in the Malayalam month of Karkitakam. It’s a practise which is defunct now as our tastes and habits have already been forced to be changed. To my  surprise the young Lady who was responsible for organising the class came to my rescue and whispered that I can dwell on any subject related to the custom but I should prolong till the dignitary who is to deliver the main speech reports at the venue. I breathed a sigh of relief and waited for my turn, trying to grab a string from my child hood.
       Slowly it started unfolding like a movie film so vivid and clear and as I took the mike in my hand the picture of my mother, in her immaculate traditional attire holding a lighted coconut leaf torch in the left hand and in the other an old bamboo winnow in which some symbolic representation remained to evict the evils from the house, emerged as if in a trance. My brothers and sister took positions behind her holding long banana stalks and ready to enact our roll. In the winnow there were three balls of cooked rice, yellow, white and black. They were placed in the jack fruit leaves folded and pinned at the tip. Before them six leaves pinned in the similar way was placed with cotton threads. An old and used small broom and a ladder made out of banana stalk found their places in the two corners of the winnow.  Slowly mother lifted the winnow and the torch to make a round motion covering the nook and corner of the  room and moved from one room to another repeating the movements rhythmically and artistically starting from the kitchen and ending at the back veranda in a set order. While she does this we followed her chanting in chorus poti po po po, shipothy makkalum va va va, simultaneously beating the banana stalk on the floor to make  to to to sound. She handedover the winnow and the torch to a lady named Devaki who had been with our family for many years to assist mother, attaining the status of a family member. Now it is her turn to go round the house three times while all of us chased her shouting and beating till she escapes , in a trance to dispose  off the winnow and torch under a bush on the banks of a nearby canal. The episode culminated when all of us took a dip in our pond, which was filled with water during the torrent rains received in edavapathy  and earlier nhattuvelas. This event took one or two hours before dusk. Finally all of us sat for a prayer contending that our house and surroundings are clean and tidy so would be our souls.  Off course the cleaning program was over one or two days ahead of the above ritual.
        Next slide in me showed the bundle of different varieties of plants and herbs placed out side the gate on the  ground  smeared with cow dung. It was collected by Chatha one of father’s assistants who was supposed to be an expert in those days to identify each and every flora and fauna of the locality. The value and spirit behind that collection is the best example of conservation practises and touch and feel education about an enigmatic nature. It loudly explained the complexity of life and its existence. I strongly feel that it is such closeness with nature in our child hood might be a reason now to our concern about the damage  caused.
          As a matter of practise the eldest male child in the family  lifts the bundle after a pooja and carrys to the house while all of us saying nira nira poli poli, pathayam nira etc etc. Then inside the house it would be placed in the natumuttam . We would eagerly wait for the moment when our mother would bring the sweet ada for the offering, to grab our share is always a sweet frolic and for the feast afterwards with puthari payasam. This event comes to an end when the herbs and plants are fixed in each corner and door of the house.
          I did not know how long I took to depict this nostalgic memory. The young lady passed on a slip of paper  indicating that the time is up. I was also exhausted and reluctantly closed my talk with a satisfaction of giving me an opportunity to open  my memory  cheppu [cask].

        

Thursday, 7 July 2016

Nurungukal..2..contd…
      It was a shock to hear the death of one of my ex-collegues and dear friend Vinoben. We joined on the same day in Southern Railways in 1963, the year in which I lost my father. Ever since for many years we lived together along with other friends in several places. Although he left Railways to join in Central Warehousing Corporation, we maintained our friendship and it remained intact till his death a few days ago. It was he who promted me to join CWC. I do not know what attracted us both to be so close. May be the mind set or wavelenghth or the chemistry in our attitudes or approach to issues that we face in life. It was quite sure that both of us endured challenges in a positive spirit and was free of worries. Our life style matched almost same except when it came to traditions. I would say that he was one step ahead in breaking the bonds of values wich lacked scientific rationale.
       It will be very intersting if we,at a later stage in life make an evaluation of the diferent types of bond that one had with friends at varrious periods. My experience was not different. Take for example our class mates in primary  school. Most of them were benchmates. It was casual and temporeary. Wereas from high scool onwards we had a tendancy to select or choose one who fit in to our standards. In college the friendship attained more meaning and that made us close life long in certain cases. I think that may be one reason why we refresh the friendship by organizing get togethers.
        As we move from one place to another in our official or social settings many faces remain with us subconciously for years. Like that of our family docters, shopkeepers with whom we have an account, the rickshaw wala who used to shuttle  our children to and fro or a family friend whom we might have choosen either from our official or social circle or rarely a collegue or very often a good neighbour.
         Still more interesting is the friendship we acquire in the course of a train journey, especially when it is to a distant destination. But that would happen to only those who engage in conversation as the journey proceeds. The process is slow. It often starts with an enquiry about our destination, the intention, followed by a curiosity about our job and slowly it will slip into a vociferous debate on th current politics and policies of the Govt. I remember about an incident in which a co-travellor who was silent all along suddenly became furious about a remark I made on the integrity of a local politition. I was virtually taken aback from his sudden reaction and had to seek the help of other passengers to get extricated from a bad  situation which would have culminated in a phisical tustle. I was always comfortable in the company of soldiers as they had many adventurous stories to depict which often kept us away from the monotony. They became saviours to those who need some physical help. We felt a sense of security while travelling in their company.
       My wife used to get in friendship with our neighbours more easily than me, although she is not talkative, yet confirming to the saying that a silent listner is a good conversationalist. Normaly I used to be a bit choosy in picking up neighbourhood friends.
       Apart from many dignitories with whom I could fortunately develop a raport, I have in credit a strain of friends from th lower strata of life also. I proudly consider the network of friends I could maintain through this media and the personal contacts as an asset which provides me a linkage beyond the geographical barriers. They often appear in my dreams or solitude to provide a nostalgia beyond description.